How long into a relationship is it acceptable to ask your partner to pop your pimples?
How long into a relationship is it acceptable to ask your partner to pop your pimples or help out with other gross things of that matter? I know some couples help each other out by getting rid of their partners backne (pimples of the back), or the occasional “obviously noticeable nose hair booger”, but when is an acceptable time to do it? Or is there ever an acceptable time to take it to that level? Comfort is part of being human and everyone knows that occasional chunk of ear wax needs assistance from someone besides you. Please help if you can (by answering the questions, not with the ear wax). Thanks 🙂
This kind of thing cannot be constrained within a timeframe. You touched on it yourself, it really is about comfort level, but I’ve got two things for you to keep in consideration before taking it this far.
#1) Being Comfortable with Yourself
Me, I’m a pretty confident guy, some might even say cocky. But this kind of thing…ehhh, I’m still not completely comfortable with it. I think it just shows another side of me that takes a long while for me to let someone into. Like…peeing in front of a girl. I won’t do it unless I am 100% comfortable. I think mentally for me it’s like, “I don’t want you to watch pee coming out of it and then have to think about putting that in your mouth later.” Same thing with popping back pimples or something…it just takes me a long time to want to show that gross side of myself to someone else.
#2) Shit Gets Real
The allure of the courting period is gone as soon as you enter this phase. At this point, you may as well put a ring on it. Yes, there’s something to be said for being “comfortable”, but then there’s such a thing as “too” comfortable. And for this, there’s no turning back once you head down this road. All of your “mystery” you might have had left in the relationship is out the window and you’re going to hit that stagnant point where there isn’t much more to figure out about you.
So me, I say push it off as long as possible. Take care of your own damn body. Keep the body looking good for the other person as long as you can. Just always think about it reversed. If your girl was like, “oh, hey help me pop this pimple on the back of my neck.” Then the next time you start making out with her and kissing her neck, you’re thinking about possibly mouthing the wrong spot and having one of those things burst in your mouth. UGH! I’m almost gonna throw up just thinking about it.
Well, sounds like this could be an interesting topic of discussion to bring up between the two of you. Coming from a personal standpoint, and being in the medical field, there are people who can do this sort of thing for you or your girlfriend. They are called doctors. If acne is plaguing a relationship, tell the other person to go see a dermatologist and get medication that may assist in less of the break-outs. Or tell them to get their ass on the phone with Proactiv and see about getting some washes that will clear up their skin. 60-day free trials are a great thing for this sort of problem you are having.
While I get it that yes, we all want comfort, there are certain things you just shouldn’t ever ask someone else to do for you. I have found myself in every situation from shaving a guy’s back, to shaving their lower regions. And let’s just put it this way, tweezing ears, removing toe nails, freeing up in-grown hairs, and other things of that nature should be something you learn to do on your own or with professional help. Yes there are certain levels of comfort we all want to have, but there are some things that can ruin a dating relationship. The only way I ever see these things as being acceptable forms of behavior are when the two are married. End of story. Yeah. And definitely don’t do it unless you’re planning on marrying her. Keep that sort of thing as an S.S.B. (secret single behavior, SATC reference). Look it up if you’ve never heard.